Further to my little talk I received comments from one smart young fellow.
He said a few valid points, without his consent I can’t post them here. Generally I agree with him. In return I said below.
- Environmental Protection = Education. I agree to his point about political situation here in Hong Kong. Education policy in Hong Kong is appalling.
- What happened if don’t like what your wife delivered in her whole hearted attempt to learn cooking? I have to say I’m a lucky guy in this respect. It’s not just that my wife cooks well what’s more important is that what food she likes, I have mentioned how important that fact is here.
I wish him luck naturally on his wife’s attempt to cook. Excuse me for the “theory of the opposite” again, it’s not the taste or quality of the cooking that matters in this case. It’s the warmth you felt from her attempt. Obviously if she has been dwelling on “theory” (by reading cookery books only instead of practicing) her perception of being a good wife is not about delivering good meals. This is forgivable. I can’t say why she has changed that’s for him to find out. Whatever the motive was her attempt deserves his appreciation.
- As my friend is married so I mentioned something that I forgot to share at the talk. Raising a kid is not like cooking. There are no degree programme or training courses to attend before you are eligible to raise a kid, the best book to read is yourself. Read the dark side of yourself, make suitable adjustment, tune it up, develop your own set of theories (you’ll be telling a lot of stories like what I’m now doing to my 5 years old son) before you decide to have your family.
A bit more on the Theory of ‘the opposite’. This theory is confusing even to me. This theory doesn’t operate alone and one should always see things together with “2 sides of a coin” theory. It’s wrong just to read books, study, theorize without practicing. It’s also not right just to learn by trial and error if there are ways to avoid repeating mistakes people have made before you.